Oops, it happened again. When least expected, of course, we got the order : Guys, it’s time to move again !
Nevermind we actually liked New York, nevermind my kids made new friends, nevermind I eventually started a project, like Moms & Boxes, I care so much about. There was absolutely nothing I could do, expect divorcing, that could keep me right where I was.
And this time we weren’t talking anywhere near like New York from Montreal. No, this time it's Asia again and, more precisely, Shanghai.
Let’s say that, at first, I didn’t like it at all. It was a new disruption right when I just recovered from the previous one. There was a lot of stress and many sleepless nights that also turned me into a teeth grinder and got me more white hair :-) I was a mess.
I was very angry and resentful towards my husband’s company for not considering the impact of their decisions on the family. But, once again, should they ? Or, as a friend of mine has pointed out : Isn’t one of the reasons why they get you so many benefits ? So they feel free to move you at will ?
I might argue that the expat package should be, in the first place, an incentive for employees to venture out in foreign countries dragging along their families, overcoming daily challenges and homesickness, rather than compensation for further hassles.
However, either way, this is it and, for now, I have to put up with it, partly because I didn’t find a way out of it, partly because, and this is what perhaps only a good therapist could explain, I still like the challenge of setting up a new life somewhere else. It’s like writing on the white pages of a new notepad.
And, of course, Moms & Boxes is moving on with me to enlarge its network of friend also in Shanghai.
Additionally, I will try my best to write about each step of this new move and see if I am still consistent with all the advice I gave in my previous posts.If the support of fellow expat women and moms was, in my opinion, the key element to my Moms & Boxes project, now, that I am going through a new transition, I simply think it's essential.
As a matter of fact, thank to the precious help of a few friends here In Shanghai I have previously met “virtually”, the adjustment process is going much smoother that I could possibly imagine.
My wish is to give every new mom in town the same opportunity.